奥利维亚·佩特表示，康奈尔大学的强奸指控事件“触发”了她回忆起自己曾遭受性侵犯的经历。
Olivia Petter, who says the Cornell University rape allegations have "triggered" her to recall her own experiences of sexual assault.
当奥利维亚·佩特第一次看到有关康奈尔大学性侵指控的新闻时，她惊讶地发现故事中的许多情节自己都曾经历过。
Olivia Petter When Olivia Petter first saw the news about the sexual assault allegations at Cornell University, she was shocked by how familiar parts of the story felt for her.
“了解得越多，我就越感触动，”她说，“对我来说最难以忍受的是看到那些男生据称在涉嫌强奸的当晚互相发送的群消息。”阅读这些对话让这位住在伦敦的作家回想起自己在英国寄宿学校的时光——从13岁起，年长的男生们就开始针对她和她的朋友们。
"The more I found out, the more triggered I became," she said. "I think for me, the worst thing was seeing the group messages that these boys were allegedly sending to each other on the night of the alleged rape." Reading those exchanges brought the London-based author back to boarding school in England, where she says older boys targeted her and her friends from the age of 13.
“他们从我们身边经过时会低声说‘新鲜货’，”佩特回忆道，“当我们走向餐厅时，他们还会给我们打分并大声喊出分数。”佩特称，她记得那些男生曾趁女生端着餐盘时扯下她们的裤子，在食堂里羞辱她们。
"They would walk past us and whisper 'Fresh meat,'" Petter said. "They would rate us out of ten and shout numbers at us when we walked down to the dining hall." Petter says she recalls boys pulling down girls' trousers while they held their lunch trays, humiliating them in the school cafeteria.
17岁那年的一次派对后，她记得有个男生趁自己试图入睡时“把手伸进我的裤子里”。“没有任何前奏。我们甚至没有接吻……我当时拼命扭动身体，试图让他停下来。”
After a party, when she was 17, she remembers a boy putting a "hand down my pants" when she was trying to go to sleep. "No preamble. We hadn't been kissing... and I was kind of wriggling, trying to get him to stop."
“人们需要明白的是，当这种事发生在你身上时，要立刻喊‘不，放开我’真的很难，因为身体会陷入恐慌状态，”她说，“你会僵住，过了好一会儿才明白发生了什么。” “性侵犯的例子实在太多了，但当时我们缺乏相关认知，也找不到合适的词汇来描述，”她补充道，这种恶劣风气甚至延续到了她上大学期间。
"The thing that people need to understand is when something like that happens to you, it's really hard to just say, no, get off me, because your body goes into this panic mode," she said. "You freeze and it takes a while for you to understand what's happening." "There were just so many instances of sexual assault and we didn't really recognize it at the time because we didn't have the language," she said, adding that the culture continued into her time at university.
现年32岁的佩特正是那些在网上分享自身经历的人之一，她们是在康奈尔大学某兄弟会宿舍爆出多起强奸指控后站出来的。
Petter, now 32, is among those sharing their own experiences online in response to the recent rape allegations that have emerged at a Cornell University fraternity house.
一名化名为简·多伊的康奈尔大学前学生上月起诉了该校及七名前学生，称自己在2024年10月、20岁时曾在Chi Phi兄弟会会馆内被人下药并多次强奸。其中几名男子的律师否认了这些指控。
A former Cornell student, identified as Jane Doe, sued the university and seven former students last month, alleging she was drugged and repeatedly raped at the Chi Phi fraternity house in October 2024, when she was 20 years old. Attorneys for some of the men have denied the accusations.
此案引发了更广泛的社会反思，让人们重新审视对性暴力的态度。在社交媒体上，许多女性使用#IamJaneDoe这一话题标签，讲述自己遭受性侵和强奸的经历。
The case has led to a wider reckoning over attitudes to sexual violence. On social media, many women have been using the hashtag #IamJaneDoe to discuss their own experiences of sexual assault and rape.
周一，康奈尔大学位于纽约州伊萨卡的Chi Phi兄弟会会馆。
The Chi Phi fraternity house at Cornell University in Ithaca, N.Y., on Monday.
希瑟·安斯沃思/美联社。其他大学也承认存在这一问题。随着此案成为全国性新闻事件，宾夕法尼亚大学的学生报纸《每日宾大报》编辑部近日刊登了一篇题为《宾大也有康奈尔式的问题》的文章。位于华盛顿特区的心理治疗师兼创伤专家汉娜·布劳恩施泰因说，对一些幸存者而言，关注相关报道就像重新经历早先遭受的侵犯。她说，对于曾遭受性侵的人，这类报道所唤起的往往不只是回忆。
Heather Ainsworth/AP Other universities have acknowledged the issue, too. As the case has become a national news story, the editorial board of The Daily Pennsylvanian— a student newspaper at the University of Pennsylvania —published a recent piece titled "Penn has a Cornell problem, too." For some survivors, following the coverage can feel like reliving an earlier assault, says Hannah Braunstein, a Washington D.C. based psychotherapist and trauma specialist. She says stories like these can bring back more than just memories for people who've been sexually assaulted.
布劳恩施泰因说：“突然之间，他们被铺天盖地的新闻淹没，自身的经历也开始通过回忆或身体感觉重新浮现。那种感觉可能可怕至极，也会瞬间把他们带回过去。”艾琳·史密斯立即出现了这种反应。这位居住在肯塔基州温彻斯特的瑜伽教练兼正念教练，最先在社交媒体上看到有关康奈尔大学的消息，随即搜索了更多细节。
"Suddenly, they're inundated with all of this news and then their own experience through memories or body sensation is beginning to unfold for them. It can be absolutely horrifying," Braunstein said. "And it can immediately transport them back in time." For Erin Smith that reaction was immediate. The yoga instructor and mindfulness coach, who lives in Winchester, Ky., first saw the news about Cornell on social media and immediately searched for more details.
“我愤怒至极，放下手机，像笼中的老虎一样在厨房里来回踱步，”史密斯回忆道。她说，这则报道唤回了记忆中童年遭受侵害时的身体痛苦。
"I was so enraged, I set my phone down and just paced around my kitchen like a caged tiger," Smith recalled. She says the story brought back the physical distress she remembered from being assaulted as a child.
“我12岁经历那件事时，胃里就曾有这种感觉，”现年53岁的史密斯说。
"I had that feeling in my stomach that happened during my experience [when] I was 12," said Smith, who is now 53.
艾琳·史密斯表示，在阅读了针对康奈尔大学的指控后，她感到“愤怒不已”。
Erin Smith, who says she was "enraged" after reading the Cornell allegations.
凯瑟琳·杜罗斯/凯瑟琳·杜罗斯摄影 布伦斯坦表示，反复接触此类报道可能会加剧情绪波动。然而，人们可能会感到不得不继续阅读，希望获取更多信息能让自己感觉好些。
Katherine Dooros/Katherine Dooros Photography Braunstein says repeated exposure to stories like these can intensify emotions. Yet, people may feel compelled to keep reading, hoping more information will help them feel better.
“我们不断寻找更多信息，是因为我们认为，如果理解了每一个细节，最终内心就会好受一些，”她说，“但往往适得其反，反而让人内心持续处于激动状态。”布伦斯坦建议使用计时器，将每天查看新闻或社交媒体的时间控制在五分钟以内。当人们感到不堪重负时，她建议将注意力转移到周围的环境中。
"We keep searching for more information because we think if we understand every detail, then finally we'll feel better internally," she said. "But, often it does the opposite, and keeps people activated internally." Braunstein recommends using a timer to keep news or social media checks to five minutes a day. When someone feels overwhelmed, she suggests turning their attention to their immediate surroundings.
“我在办公室里常和顾客谈论的一点是运用‘第一视觉’，环顾房间并说出你看到的东西，注意你听到的声音，”她说，“感受双脚踩在地面上的感觉。这是一种行之有效的接地技术。”史密斯表示，她最终意识到自己需要暂时远离社交媒体上的评论。在户外度过时光、陪伴她的狗以及弹吉他，都帮助她感觉更加平静。但她说，愤怒依然存在，因此她开始通过写作来表达这种情绪。
"One thing I talk about with clients in my office is using first sight, looking around the room and calling out what you see, noticing what you hear," she said. "Feeling your feet on the floor. That's a grounding technique that works." Smith said she eventually recognized that she needed a break from the comments on social media. Spending time outside, being with her dog and playing guitar has helped her feel calmer. But, she said the anger remains, so she has started to write about it.
佩特也转向了写作。随着她持续关注此案，她希望利用自己的愤怒来开启关于性侵犯的对话。
Petter also turned to writing. As she continues following the case, she wants to use her anger to start a dialogue around sexual assault.
“我想紧紧抓住这份愤怒，因为我认为愤怒是强大的，它能让我与生活中的人进行这些对话，”她说，“而当我提到‘人’时，我指的是男性。”佩特表示，她也希望男性之间能进行这样的对话，并在自己的朋友圈内，包括在线上，挑战那些贬低女性的言论。
"I want to hold on to the rage because I think rage is powerful and will enable me to have these conversations with the people in our lives," she said. "And when I say people, I mean men." Petter says she wants men to have those conversations among themselves, too, and challenge derogatory comments about women within their own friend groups, including online.
对史密斯来说，康奈尔大学的案件感觉非常私人化，因为它让许多性侵犯幸存者重新回到了自己的经历中。
For Smith, the Cornell case feels personal because it brings so many survivors of sexual assault back to their own experiences.
“我认为这就是为什么现在如此多女性被触发的原因，因为‘无名氏简’就是我们所有人，”她说，“我们都有某种故事。”性侵犯
"I think that's why so many women are triggered right now, because Jane Doe is all of us." she said. "We all have some sort of story." sexual assault