
努尔·艾莎是一名30岁的公务员,过去几年一直都在寻找伴侣,却几乎毫无收获。
Nur Aisyah, a 30-year-old civil servant, has spent the past couple of years looking for a partner, with little to show for it.
努尔很少能通过工作或兴趣爱好认识男性,而她认为 Tinder 和 Bumble 等交友软件“很糟糕”,潜在的追求者要么敷衍地填写个人资料,要么难以通过短信维持对话。
Nur rarely meets men through work or her hobbies and finds dating apps such as Tinder and Bumble “terrible”, with potential suitors either putting scant effort into their profile or struggling to hold a conversation over text.
努尔愿意生育子女,但她也很难想象在住房和育儿成本高企的城市抚养孩子,而且育儿负担通常主要由女性承担。
Nur is open to having children but also struggles to imagine raising them in a city where housing and childcare costs are high, and where the burden of childcare typically falls hardest on women.
“我对整体未来有些悲观。”努尔在接受半岛电视台采访时说。她要求使用化名。
“I feel slightly pessimistic about the future as a whole,” Nur, who asked to use a pseudonym, told Al Jazeera.
因此,最近新加坡政府科技局(GovTech)推出面向公职人员、采用诺贝尔奖获奖算法的交友平台 FirstDate 时,努尔出于好奇报名参加了。“这更多是一种‘为什么不呢?’的心态。”她说,“如果真能因此脱单,倒是个挺有意思的故事。”FirstDate 源自 GovTech 每年举办的黑客马拉松,员工会在活动中开发并测试新创意。该平台目前正在面向21至35岁的未婚政府雇员进行试点。
So when Singapore’s technology agency GovTech recently rolled out FirstDate, a dating platform for public servants that uses a Nobel-winning algorithm, Nur signed up out of curiosity“It’s more of the mindset of ‘Why not?’” she said. “It makes quite a funny story if something did come out of this.”Born out of GovTech’s annual hackathon, where staff develop and test new ideas, FirstDate is being piloted among single government employees aged 21 to 35.
参与者需要使用国民数字身份证,并填写一份关于自身兴趣、习惯和价值观的调查问卷,之后每次只会匹配一名潜在伴侣。此次试点的报名已于周一截止。
Participants using their national digital ID and answer a survey about their interests, habits and values before being matched with one prospective partner at a time. Sign-ups for the pilot closed on Monday.
GovTech 已告知当地媒体,尚未就是否将该服务推广至政府机构雇员之外作出决定。
GovTech has told local media that no decision has been made on whether to expand the service beyond employees at government agencies.
2020年2月14日,一对情侣在新加坡乌节路佩戴口罩,以防范新冠疫情,并庆祝情人节。 新加坡决定介入婚恋撮合,是该国为提升已降至历史低位的出生率而作出的最新努力。
A couple celebrates Valentine’s Day as they wear face masks as a precaution against the COVID-19 outbreak at Orchard Road in Singapore on February 14, 2020 [Edgar Su/Reuters] Singapore’s decision to get into the matchmaking game is its latest attempt to lift a birthrate that has sunk to historic lows.
2025年,这个东南亚城邦出生的婴儿不足3万人,生育率降至0.87的历史低点。
Fewer than 30,000 babies were born in the Southeast Asian city-state in 2025, bringing the fertility rate to a record low of 0.87.
8月,总理黄循财宣布了一系列支持家庭的新举措,包括从出生到17岁,每个孩子可获得价值近7万新元(约合5.5万美元)的经济福利。
In August, Prime Minister Lawrence Wong announced a series of new measures to support families, including almost 70,000 Singapore dollars ($55,000) worth of financial benefits for every child from birth until age 17.
对于新加坡而言,其600万公民几乎是这个城邦唯一的资源,人口萎缩和快速老龄化的前景关乎生存。
For Singapore, whose six million citizens are practically the city-state’s only resource, the prospect of a shrinking, fast-ageing population is existential.
今年2月,副总理颜金勇警告称,如果不加干预,公民人口可能在2040年代初开始萎缩,导致劳动力减少,无法照顾老年人。
In February, Deputy Prime Minister Gan Kim Yong warned that without intervention, the citizen population could begin to shrink by the early 2040s, leaving fewer workers to care for the elderly.
新加坡已经严重依赖移民来满足劳动力需求,政府预计未来五年每年将接纳2.5万至3万名新公民。在这个620万人口挤在不足伦敦一半面积的国家里,这种涌入在政治上颇为敏感。
Singapore already leans heavily on immigration to meet its workforce needs, with the government expecting to take in 25,000 to 30,000 new citizens annually over the next five years, a politically sensitive influx in a country whose 6.2 million inhabitants fill an area less than half the size of London.
然而,即使新加坡的官员们大力催生,许多新加坡人却热衷于“无孩生活方式”,更愿意享受双薪家庭、开销较少的红利,或将精力倾注在宠物身上。新加坡向来不避讳干涉“心事”。
Yet even as Singapore’s bureaucrats urge people to have babies, many Singaporeans have enthusiastically embraced a child-free lifestyle, preferring to reap the benefits of living in a double-income household with fewer bills or to lavish their attention on pets. Singapore has never been shy about meddling in matters of the heart.
1972年,李光耀总理在新加坡的一个招待会上致意 [资料图片:美联社] 1983年,在一次引发“大婚姻辩论”的演讲中,新加坡国父、任期最长的总理李光耀警告说,毕业生,尤其是女性,结婚晚、生育少,比受教育程度较低的人群更甚。
Prime Minister Lee Kuan Yew is greeted at a reception in Singapore in 1972 [File: AP] In a 1983 speech that sparked what became known as the “Great Marriage Debate”, Lee Kuan Yew, Singapore’s founding father and longest-serving prime minister, warned that graduates, especially women, were marrying late and having fewer children than the less educated.
次年,李光耀政府推出了备受争议的“女大学生优生计划”,在入学甄选中优先考虑大学毕业生母亲的子女。
The following year, Lee’s government introduced the controversial Graduate Mothers’ Scheme, which prioritised the children of university-educated mothers in school admissions.
大致同一时期,政府设立了社会发展局(SDU),为单身毕业生组织联谊活动,这引得一些新加坡人调侃该机构的英文缩写实为“单身、绝望且丑陋”(Single, Desperate and Ugly)的首字母缩写。
Around the same time, the government established the Social Development Unit (SDU) to organise events where graduate singles could mingle, prompting some Singaporeans to joke that the body’s initials should stand for “Single, Desperate and Ugly”.
批评人士指责该机构精英主义,随后在1985年成立了一个专门面向仅具备中学学历人士的独立机构。
Critics called the agency elitist, and a separate body for those with only secondary school qualifications followed in 1985.
新加坡政策研究院兼任首席研究员陈恩泽(Tan Ern Ser)告诉半岛电视台:“我们拥有一个高度干预主义的政府,甚至介入爱情和婚姻这一私人领域。”
“We have a highly interventionist government, even in a private sphere of love and marriage,” Tan Ern Ser, adjunct principal research fellow at the Institute of Policy Studies in Singapore, told Al Jazeera.
陈恩泽表示,尽管历届政府试图充当媒人的努力既“不显著也不具成本效益”,但新加坡现任官僚们热衷于介入相亲游戏的程度丝毫不减,只是利用起了科技的力量。
Tan said that although past governments’ attempts to play matchmaker were neither “significant nor cost effective”, Singapore’s current generation of bureaucrats is no less eager to involve themselves in the dating game, using the power of technology.
不过陈恩泽指出,政府支持的平台并不意味着回到包办婚姻时代,“被认定为合适的伴侣仍可能擦出爱情火花”。FirstDate依赖盖尔-沙普利算法,该算法由数学家大卫·盖尔和劳埃德·沙普利于1962年设计,根据双方的排序偏好进行配对。
Still, Tan said, a government-backed platform does not mark a return to the era of arranged marriages, and “couples who are identified as compatible could still have a love match.”FirstDate relies on the Gale-Shapley algorithm, devised by mathematicians David Gale and Lloyd Shapley in 1962, which pairs people according to the ranked preferences of each side.
沙普利因发现该算法而分享2012年诺贝尔经济学奖纪念奖,该算法的变体被用于学校招生和医学住院医师分配。
Shapley shared the 2012 Nobel memorial prize in economics for discovering the algorithm, versions of which are used in school admissions and medical residency placements.
一对情侣于2021年8月13日坐在新加坡防波堤岩石上 “这与大多数约会应用的做法截然不同,”新加坡科技大学心理学副教授刘琼(Jean Liu)告诉半岛电视台。
A couple sits along the breakwater rocks in Singapore on August 13, 2021 [Roslan Rahman/AFP]“This is a fundamentally different approach from most dating apps,” Jean Liu, an associate professor of psychology at the Singapore Institute of Technology, told Al Jazeera.
“这更类似于线下相亲,用一次匹配取代了无休止的左右滑动。”刘琼表示,FirstDate源于一场黑客马拉松,反映出“创新解决国家‘棘手问题’的渴望”。
“It is more akin to offline matchmaking, with endless profile swiping replaced by a single match.”That FirstDate grew out of a hackathon, Liu said, reflects “an appetite to innovate on the nation’s ‘hard problems'”.
它是否能比主流约会应用更好地帮助人们找到爱情,则是另一回事。
Whether it will help people find love any better than mainstream dating apps is another matter.
刘琼表示,问卷在预测两人是否会一见如故方面价值有限,且匹配质量仅取决于参与者的质量。
Questionnaires have limited value in predicting whether two people will hit it off, and the matches are only as good as the pool of people who join, Liu said.
“如果报名人数太少,这个流程可能会中断。”刘姓人士表示,该应用程序最大的价值,或许在于让政府有机会评估并发布约会数据,而把算法视为敏感商业机密的应用程序公司极少这样做。新加坡并非唯一试图为单身男女牵线搭桥的政府。
“The process may break down if too few people sign up.”The app’s greatest value, Liu said, may be in giving the government an opportunity to evaluate and publish dating data, something app companies, which treat their algorithms as sensitive company information, rarely do. Singapore is not alone in trying to pair up singles.
东京都政府于2024年推出了由人工智能驱动的约会应用程序“东京缘结”,而首尔市政府的“Seoulting”项目则在汉江等地标举办精心策划的相亲活动。
Tokyo’s metropolitan government launched Tokyo Enmusubi, an AI-powered dating app, in 2024, while the Seoul government’s “Seoulting” programme hosts curated blind dates at landmarks such as the Han River.
在网上,新加坡人对政府最新“充当红娘”举措的反应褒贬不一,从嘲讽到觉得好笑都有。
Online, Singaporeans’ reactions to their government’s latest bid to play cupid have ranged from scorn to amusement.
一些评论员批评“FirstDate”是浪费公帑,另一些人则开玩笑说“国家分配配偶”,以及寻找真爱是否会被纳入他们的工作指标(KPI)之中。
Some commentators have dismissed FirstDate as a waste of public money, while others have joked about “state-assigned spouses” and whether finding love will now be included among their work targets.
杰米是一名在教育领域工作的公务员,她收到了邀请她加入该平台的电子邮件,但没有报名计划。
Jamie, a government employee who works in education, received the email inviting her to join the platform but has no plans to sign up.
“我觉得挺尴尬的。听起来就像有人在过度用力,”拒绝透露姓氏的杰米告诉半岛电视台。
“I think it’s quite cringe. It just sounds like someone is trying too hard,” Jamie, who declined to give her last name, told Al Jazeera.
“我们的社交技能已经退化了。下班后我累得只想回家躺平,”杰米说。
“Our social skills have atrophied. I am so exhausted after work that I just want to go home and lie down,” Jamie said.
她说自己确实通过社区团体努力过,但尚未遇到价值观相投或在情感上已准备好开始恋爱的人,所以“毫无进展”。杰米表示,她也担心隐私问题。
She said she does make an effort through community groups, but has yet to meet anyone who shares her values or is emotionally ready for a relationship, so “nothing happens”. Jamie said she also wonders about privacy.
“他们为了配对要收集什么样的数据,又会如何处理这些数据?”她说。
“What kind of data are they collecting in order for a match, and what are they doing with said data?” she said.
根据“FirstDate”网站的说明,个人资料仅对匹配对象可见,只有在双方同意的情况下才会共享联系方式,数据不会被货币化或共享给第三方,除非法律要求或允许。
According to FirstDate’s website, profiles are visible only to a person’s match, contact details are shared only when both parties agree, and data will not be monetised or shared with third parties except where the law requires or permits.
2026年2月27日,新加坡的私人和公共住宅高楼大厦全景图 对于博士生、前《海峡时报》记者张凯翔(Teo Kai Xiang,音译)而言,将约会简化为一份偏好清单,反映了“一种深度交易化和工具化的爱情观”,在这种观点下,伴侣沦为“金融合伙企业的共同拥有者”以及“备受追捧孩子的繁育者”。
A general view shows private and public residential high-rise buildings in Singapore on February 27, 2026 [Roslan Rahman/AFP] For Teo Kai Xiang, a PhD student and former Straits Times journalist, dating reduced to a list of preferences reflects “a deeply transactional and instrumentalist view of love”, in which partners become “co-owners of a financial venture” and “breeders of sought-after children”.
张凯翔表示,新加坡的公共住房制度强化了这种心态,对于追逐补贴的情侣来说,婚前申请组屋是理性之举。
That mindset, Teo said, is sharpened by Singapore’s public housing system, where the rational move for couples chasing subsidies is to apply for an apartment before marriage.
张凯翔说,这种算法“无法修正或挑战这种人资面试官心态”,他同时也质疑为何要将36岁及以上人群排除在外。
This algorithm “does not fix or challenge this HR interviewer mindset”, said Teo, who also questions why those aged 36 and above are excluded.
虽然他欢迎这项试验,但张凯翔希望政府能做更多工作来振兴这个城邦的“第三空间”和夜生活,而不是“把鼓励生育的说教强行塞进我们喉咙里”。
Though he welcomes the experiment, Teo would like to see the government do more to revive the city-state’s third spaces and nightlife instead of “ramming pro-fertility rhetoric down our throats”.
他说,约会的更大障碍是成本——从昂贵的深夜交通到高昂的房租,导致许多单身人士在30多岁仍与父母同住。
The bigger barrier to dating, he said, is cost – from pricey late-night transport to high rents that keep many singletons living with their parents into their 30s.
单身人士无法独自购买公共住房——新加坡约80%的居民居住在公共住房中——直到年满35岁。
Singles cannot buy public housing, home to about 80 percent of residents in Singapore, on their own until they turn 35.
“事实是,我们并不真正知道是什么让爱情长久,以至于我们能将其阐述并在社会层面实施,”张凯翔说。“它太混乱、太复杂、太独特、太有人性了。”
“The truth is that we don’t really know what exactly makes love work, such that we can articulate and implement it on a societal scale,” Teo said. “It’s too messy, too complex, too idiosyncratic, and too human.”