康纳·霍洛兰说，他上一段感情并非完全因为与前任伴侣在政治上的分歧而破裂，但这“几乎成了压垮骆驼的最后一根稻草。”
Connor Halloran says his last relationship wasn't entirely quashed by a disagreement with his now ex-partner over politics, but it was "almost the last straw."
霍洛兰说，他前任伴侣相互矛盾的观点“在某种程度上让我对她的看法有所不同，以至于我不再那么想和她待在一起了。”他并非孤例——至少在渥太华大学校园里，大多数学生要么认为政治在恋爱关系中至关重要，要么干脆避免提及此话题。
Halloran said his past partner's contradictory views "made me judge her a little differently in a way that I didn't really want to be around her as much anymore." He's not alone — at least on the University of Ottawa campus, where most students either said politics is pivotal in their relationships or that they avoid bringing it up altogether.
加拿大广播公司电台周三在一次考试结束后，在校园人行道上采访了霍洛兰及其朋友、地理专业同学亚历克斯·凯利。凯利认为，在约会中最好避开政治，以“避免冲突和对抗。”
CBC Radio's caught Halloran and his friend and fellow geography major Alex Kelly as they stepped out onto a campus sidewalk after an exam on Wednesday. Kelly maintains it's best to keep politics out of dating to "avoid conflict and confrontation."
“那算不算是一种秘密生活？也许有那么一点，”凯利说。“但，我是说，[如果]你想要一段长久的关系，我认为有时候一点点保密是好的——也许吧。”美国生活调查中心主任丹尼尔·考克斯对这种谨慎的情绪“非常熟悉”，他在最近出版的一本书中，探讨了政治如何作为更大社会趋势的症状，影响了一些年轻人的约会生活。
"Is that kind of living in secrecy? Maybe a little bit," Kelly said. "But, I mean, [if] you want a long-lasting relationship, I think sometimes a little bit of secrecy is good — maybe." The cautious sentiments are "very familiar" to Daniel Cox, the director of the Survey Center on American Life, who, in his most recent book, looks at how politics has impacted some youths' dating lives as a symptom of a larger social trend.
“对于与一个政治观点稍有不同，或者身份并不完全契合的人约会，人们存在这种难以置信的戒心，”考克斯告诉。
"There is this incredible wariness about dating someone even with a little bit of a different political take or whose identity didn't quite align," Cox told .
在中，考克斯考察了美国年轻男女日益扩大的政治分歧。考克斯说，他采访了超过100人，其个人故事构成了本书的依据。
In , Cox examines the growing political divide among young American women and men. Cox says he interviewed over 100 people whose personal stories his book relies on.
“这不一定是年轻男性变得更保守，而是年轻女性变得自由得多，多得多，”他说。
"It's not necessarily that young men are becoming more conservative, but young women are becoming much, much more liberal," he said.
在他的研究中，考克斯说，他发现社交媒体在沿性别界限分裂美国年轻人方面发挥了作用。
In his research, Cox said he found social media plays a role in fragmenting young Americans along gender lines.
孩子和年轻人沉迷于屏幕。新研究认为这可能是一个公共卫生问题。“就算法而言，它们非常、非常强大，而且在识别性别方面几乎比任何其他属性都更出色，”考克斯说。
Kids and young adults are addicted to screens. New research argues it may be a public health concern "When it comes to the algorithms, they are both very, very powerful and they are better able to identify gender than almost any other attribute," Cox said.
“所以年轻男性和年轻女性在同一社交媒体平台上会有非常不同的体验，他们的现实被这种理解所塑造，这种验证机器在肯定他们的观点、经历和看法。”考克斯还提到了美国总统唐纳德·特朗普的分裂性政治，在一篇名为《分裂者之首》的章节中，他表示，特朗普在年轻人的恋爱关系中是“压倒性地”最大的交往障碍。
"So young men and young women have very different experiences when they're on the same social media platforms, and their realities are shaped by this understanding, this sort of validation machine that is affirming their perspectives, experiences and point of view." Cox also points to the divisive politics of U.S. President Donald Trump, in a chapter titled The Divider in Chief, and told the president serves as the biggest dealbreaker "by a landslide" when it comes to young people's relationships.
“当我与许多年轻女性交谈时，她们说自己无法与特朗普支持者约会，他的政策从未真正被提及，”考克斯说。“相反，是他对女性的贬低言论、轻蔑行为以及他性侵指控的历史。”美国最高法院再次驳回特朗普推翻E·简·卡罗尔判决的努力。根据环境研究所执行董事安德鲁·帕金的说法，加拿大的年轻人并未感受到同样的分歧。
"When I talked to a lot of young women who said that they could not date a Trump supporter, his policies never really came up," Cox said. "Rather it was his demeaning comments about women, belittling behaviour, his history of sexual assault allegations." U.S. Supreme Court again rejects Trump's effort to overturn E. Jean Carroll verdict According to Andrew Parkin, executive director of the Environics Institute For Survey Research, youth aren't feeling the same split north of the border.
“美国人正在对他们的政治发展做出反应，”帕金告诉《众议院》杂志。“我们没有像特朗普这样的领导人来引发那种反应，看看会发生什么。”帕金指出，长期以来的民调趋势显示，年轻女性往往比年轻男性稍微偏左，而年轻男性通常在社会问题上稍微偏保守，他说这种差异“一直存在，并未扩大”。年轻男性如何改变加拿大保守主义的面貌。“男性普遍并未变得更加保守，”他说。
"People in the U.S. are reacting to their political developments," Parkin told The House. "We haven't had a leader like Trump to provoke that kind of reaction to see what would happen." Parkin pointed to a longstanding polling trend of young women tending to lean a bit more toward the left than young men, who generally lean a little more socially conservative, saying the difference has "been there for a while, and it's not growing." How young men are changing what conservatism looks like in Canada "Men are not generally becoming more conservative," he said.
“就年轻人中男女之间的性别差异而言，对政府和政治体系感到不太满意的，会是年轻女性。”爱情真的会对政治视而不见吗？记者还联系了住在费城郊外的梅丽莎和康拉德·穆利夫妇。
"To the extent that there's a gender difference among younger people, between young men and young women, it'll be women that are a little bit more dissatisfied" with government and the political system. Can love really be blind — to politics? also checked in with Melissa and Conrad Muhly, a couple living just outside of Philadelphia.
在25年的婚姻生活中，他们之间曾经微不足道的政治分歧变得愈发重要：梅丽莎是加拿大和美国双重国籍，一直投票给民主党，而康拉德投了特朗普的票。
Since the start of their 25 years of marriage, a once trivial political wrinkle between them has grown in significance: Melissa is a dual Canada-U.S. citizen and has been voting Democrat while Conrad voted for Trump.
《众议院强硬对抗，加拿大》康拉德表示，在感情问题上，政治“非常重要”。
The House Elbows up, Canada Conrad said politics "matters significantly" when it comes to relationships.
梅丽莎说，26年前开始交往时，政治分歧并不是什么大问题，她补充道：“如今，政治观点几乎成了你价值体系和灵魂的一部分。”
Melissa said political differences weren't a big deal when they started dating 26 years ago, adding, "these days it feels almost like your political views become part of your value system and your soul."
“我们现在拥有美好的婚姻，美好的关系，”康拉德说。“对于刚开始交往的人来说，如果持有如此截然相反的观点，要维持一段关系会非常困难。”
"Now, we have a great marriage, a great relationship for both of us," Conrad said. "For someone starting out, I think to have [such] diametric views, it would be very difficult to have a relationship."
“我认为，刚开始交往的情侣要处理这些问题会非常困难，”梅丽莎说。“我们做到了，但并不总是容易。”
"I think that it would be very tough for a couple newly dating to navigate these waters," Melissa said. "We've been able to do it, but it hasn't always been easy."
被问及如果今天相遇他们是否还会结婚，梅丽莎毫不掩饰：“绝对不会。……事实上，如果25年前我知道什么是共和党人，我绝不会和一个共和党人约会。”
Asked whether they would end up married had they met today, Melissa didn't mince words: "absolutely not.… In fact, I wouldn't date a Republican, if I'd known what one was 25 years ago."
康拉德则笑着回应：“你知道，我会试图说服当时的另一半，让她看到正确的立场，如果她同意了，我们就会相处得很好。”两人都笑了起来。
"I would, you know, try to sway my significant other at the time to see the right side of things, and if she did, we would get along fine," Conrad responded, as they both chuckled.